Can you remember back to your adolescent raging hormones, obsessive fantasies, and daydreaming about your first, highly anticipated, cataclysmic event – – – owning and driving your first car?
Most pre-teen boys, though not yet sprouting facial hair, somehow have the uncanny ability to nail down every last detail of their dream vehicle. Could it go from zero to sixty in three seconds flat? Would it have 4, 6, or 8 cylinders? How about those coveted rims, 4 wheel lift, doors, panels, and hardware? The list is as endless as the options are available.
So when asked by not teenage boys, but by grown men, “What is the best relationship advice you can give me?” I always respond with what is the simple but often overlooked truth: “Know yourself better than the first car you dreamed of in your youth.”
It’s essential to get to know yourself in every possible way – not just to be a successful single looking to move into a committed relationship, but to be a successful, unique individual mastering the art of being a very cool human being. Excelling in your career, building a legacy, and developing intimate relationships with someone else will always be challenging if you don’t first have a solid knowledge of who you are.
Regardless of your vehicle preferences: Lamborghini, restored Chevy Impala, lifted truck, or perhaps a motorcycle, the wins in life rest on your shoulders. It’s time to get the keys to your desired vehicle and start the journey. The first stop on this trip is to recognize your strengths, needs, abilities and desires.
This awareness will lead you to finding your purpose. Your:
- Purpose tells you what you SHOULD do
- Strengths tell you what you DO best
- Needs dictate what you MUST do
- Abilities tell you what you CAN do
- Desires tell you what you WANT to do.
Once you align your purpose with your needs, abilities, and desires, you’ve got the winning lottery ticket- a life well lived; filled with greater confidence and fulfillment, regardless of what vehicle you drive.